Sometimes, I have no clue how to advocate

Jun 9
2010

So the backstory.  Toby came home from school today summarizing this inequity.   Apparently one of the lunch ladies at school likes to bake, and has taken a liking to Toby and slips him a slice of cake (or whatever) occasionally.  Such that the other kids notice.  The inequity (for Toby) is that one of the teachers has decided that the way to deal with this is to work with Toby on refusing these gifts.  So, today the lunch lady started to pass him a slice, and this teacher glared at Toby, shook her head and frowned at him to say “no”.

Now, I get this issue is multi-layered.  There’s a level of “give the poor crippled kid a treat” (it happens with some frequency.  Some lady handed Terry a dollar at McDonald’s once, “for the boy”. Toby was rather taken with the idea that random strangers would give him money.  He was about 6 at the time).  There’s a level of unfairness to all of the kids at school.

But call me crazy – is this not just stupid?  IMO the teacher should talk to the lunch lady if she has an issue with this.  It is not fair to put Toby in the position of refusing something like this.

But moreover, I’m just shaking my head.  How on earth does someone respond to this?  I’ll email the teacher and ask for her side.  But there’s a limit of my control over misguided people.

I know, I have been a seldom blogger lately.  My sabbatical is winding down, June is shaping up to be quite busy.  Things are going well.  Adolescence is calming down ;)   Knitting is happening (always a good sign, though I’m trying to finish this baby sweater and the i-cord bind off is just endless).  Skating has gone great this spring, though that’s worth of another post (complete with video).